tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post1686334111402639349..comments2023-11-14T17:44:05.708+03:00Comments on Mai to the Extreme: Parenting: If You Can't Make it, Fake ItUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-56267641823999766392011-03-13T21:06:47.211+03:002011-03-13T21:06:47.211+03:00Thank you Mai for your dua and Ameen to it. I app...Thank you Mai for your dua and Ameen to it. I appreciate your time and response. I think that is a good idea what your doing to gradually start your girls with hijab. Inshallah I hope to start my 7 year old this summer. I remember my mom started my sisters and I when we were just 5 years old, lol we only were in kindergarten. I think that is such a benefit to live in an Islamic county, and all the young girls are wearing Abaya, and hijab. I hope my girls will ease into abaya as well as they get older, Inshallah.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-75349537236890370482011-03-13T13:27:39.150+03:002011-03-13T13:27:39.150+03:00Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh ...Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh wa maghfiratuh yaa Umm Abdurahman!<br /><br />Wa iyaaki, wa barak Allahu feeki wa fee hayaatee my sweet, sweet sister. What a blessing is is to have your valuable contribution to this subject. <br /><br />I think a major factor in modelling successfully and doing right by our children is ignoring other people's opinions and influences. It's about doing what is pleasing to Allah, not what is normal or pleasing to the people. Whenever I feel surrounded by practices and manners outside of what I'm adhering to, I remind myself that I will never find any proof of it's correctness in the Quran and the Hadith for my children. At least, with proof behind me, I can rest assured of Allah's support in my efforts.<br /><br />Ahhh, so that's why you needed those strawberries, LOL! Wonderful concept. I feel so relaxed making everything from scratch. I know exactly what is in it, can control the ingredients, and it tastes so much better. May Allah bless all your efforts with the ultimate success in this life and the aakhirah - ameen.Healing Earthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01434544812025924667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-52612541772460325142011-03-13T08:32:13.042+03:002011-03-13T08:32:13.042+03:00ps: My neighbour has a 5 year old girl and a 2 and...ps: My neighbour has a 5 year old girl and a 2 and a half year old girl who both wear niqab. I was really taken aback when i saw them for the first time. the oldest has a thing about copying mum and wants to act grown up so her mummy made her an elastic niqab, well when she first wore ite outside the younger one cried and cried for one the whole outing, and when they came back her mum made her one too. they are so adorable. what's amazing is that people stop her at malls and tell her she is opressing her children, in a muslim country. I dont have any daughters but seeing them made me think i hope allah grants me daughters as enthusiastic about hijab and modesty.umm abdurahmannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-81687288760450387112011-03-13T08:23:57.467+03:002011-03-13T08:23:57.467+03:00assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,
I j...assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu, <br />I just found myself explaining the same thing to a friend of mine who is getting married. I can say without a shadow of my doubt having children has definately helped me become a better muslim both outwardly and inwardly. As my children are both at the 'sponge' age they watch, and imitate everything me and my husband do and say, after seeing how easy it is for them to pick up negative comments or ideas, i found i would constantly check my actions, is this step that im going to take, or this statement that im going to make, will it benefit me, my deen, my children? This has really helped change me. Yesterday i got angry at my son for doing something, so he says to me <br />''أمي لا تغضب, الغضب من الشيطان, قولي أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم, ثم الغضب يذهب" <br />just hearing that extinguished any anger in me, and made me happy.<br />I also owe my lifestyle changes to the birth of my son. I was never fat alhamdulillah but did eat very unhealthy anyway i had my first son via c-section and it was abolutely awful the way the hospitals co-erce you into all these procedures and really hinder the birthing process, and then at the end say well unfortunately we have to do an emergency c-section. well when they got me into the operating room, and i recieved the injection for the anesthesia and they lay me flat, before they could even put the knife to me, i found one of them saying ''she's fully dilated, can you push sweetheart'' it was a very painful experience as i could had no sensation in my lower body and no control over any muscles, alhamdulillah. I was extremely happy at my sons birth but i felt somewhat marred. Anway thereafter i knew i wanted more kids in the future and having one c section puts you at a higher risk of having another, and there's only so many of those a women can have. so i started looking into homebirth, change in diet, regular excercise, as a result i had my second at home, no pushing even though he was such a big baby, he slipped right out, no tears or anything alhamdulillah. since then we have come a long way, we try to purchase organic whenver we can, we no longer buy anything white, so no white sugar, flour etc, no processed items, we are only allowed to buy raw ingrediants, so our rule is if we cant make it, we dont buy it. with the exception of dairy. which for us is just youghurt,milk, butter and mozarella. it has been great learning and bonding experience for us, my son does everything with me from baking bread, ketchup, mayonnaise, this weekend we made strawberry jam!<br /><br />jazakullahu kheyran for the reminderumm abdurahmannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-41095990530678384392011-03-13T07:05:24.411+03:002011-03-13T07:05:24.411+03:00Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh ...Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh Sara.<br /><br />Ahlan wa sahlan! Jazaaki Allahu khayran for your words of encouragement; they are much appreciated. Ameen to your dua'! Inshaa'Allah, our blogs will benefit others and please Allah. <br /><br />Barak Allahu feeki wa fee hayaatiki.Healing Earthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01434544812025924667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-5959770409525025882011-03-13T05:48:54.299+03:002011-03-13T05:48:54.299+03:00Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh ...Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh Umm Assad.<br /><br />You know, different angles reach different people and mindsets. I write, but I never know if the outlook I present will "reach" people or not. Al hamdu l'Illah that this is nudging your brain in a good direction. I pray that it will "sink in" and every ounce of you will feel the beauty of the veil from every aspect - ameen. <br /><br />As for hijab, we do a gradual thing from the age of 7 to 10, and by ten the girls should be established in wearing abaya and hijab. At that stage, they are already developing so they need to cover and be ready for the onset of menstruation. <br /><br />My 7 year old doesn't wear it on a daily basis. However, from toddlers the girls wore long dresses and skirts, so they are used to covering their legs outside. The tops always have some sleeve, whether short or long. They wear hijab or a prayer dress to the masjid. <br /><br />It is different here, because most of the girls from around 7 or 8 onwards wear an abaya and hijab. By the time she reaches 8, she will gradually increase her abaya and hijab use so that it is established and natural by the time she is 10. <br /><br />For my step daughter, we were in the States up to her being 9 years old, so we gradually changed her wardrobe over the ages from 7 - 9. Hijab became permanent in public by age 8 and a half. She would wear modest clothes with it and nothing shorter than 3/4 sleeves. By 9, the sleeves became full length, and she increased her use of abaya so that by 10, she wears abaya and hijab all the time.<br /><br />Personally, I think that during the years they are learning and establishing prayer, it is good to gradually make them aware of different aspects of hayaa. When the changes are gradual, they are more natural and comfortable. By the time they are commanded that they must pray (10) they also have usually started developing, so it all ties in nicely with hijab, and Allah knows best. <br /><br />May Allah give you an excellent solution to their schooling that will develop and nurture their Islam - ameen.Healing Earthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01434544812025924667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-22115349727922826682011-03-13T02:09:23.059+03:002011-03-13T02:09:23.059+03:00Assalaam Alaikum Mai,
I've been a silent read...Assalaam Alaikum Mai,<br /><br />I've been a silent reader of your blog for some time now, and just want to say, MashaAllah, your posts are <i>excellent</i>. May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala reward you immensely for sharing your beautiful experiences and life lessons with us. I've benefited so much from reading your blog and always look forward to your entries. =)<br /><br />Your post are an inspiration to young and older Muslimahs alike.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02353226495335055870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-80894403464419366352011-03-13T00:35:12.761+03:002011-03-13T00:35:12.761+03:00Alhumdulilah Mai, Jazakallah Kharian for your effo...Alhumdulilah Mai, Jazakallah Kharian for your efforts. Honestly you know I was really struggling with the veil, and letting the Shaytan whisper to me just to take it off. Not my hijab, but my niqab. I really took your advice to heart, and I make my intentions to wear the face veil for my own protection, and as dawah for others. I've always been a very friendly, and outgoing (before niqab) so that's how I am even in my veil now. I notice too the reactions from people when I interact with them. I think it is sometimes an issues within myself. My naufs, and me still wanting to feel "normal" or pretty. I know my beauty is for my husband only, and I feel so much better about covering now. If I think about it as a protection and not an oppression than it is not so heavy upon me. I want to be a good role model for my kids as well. I was wondering with your girls what do you think is a good age to start the hijab? I'm thinking of starting my daughter next year, she's 7. Inshallah I pray my husband, and I will be able to send our kids to Islamic school SOON! We don't currently have one in our city. Inshallah soon though.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com