tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post2575538021239821352..comments2023-11-14T17:44:05.708+03:00Comments on Mai to the Extreme: Polygyny: The Grass is Green on both Sides of the FenceUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-60209852807797464332011-01-07T06:28:59.710+03:002011-01-07T06:28:59.710+03:00Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh ...Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh Amatullah2!<br /><br />You are most welcome to use anything you find of benefit here...because that's what it's all about - benefiting ourselves and others in anyway we can.Healing Earthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01434544812025924667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-28162494507315795372011-01-07T06:02:07.920+03:002011-01-07T06:02:07.920+03:00as salaamu alaykum Mai,
I love this post!!!! I ho...as salaamu alaykum Mai,<br /><br />I love this post!!!! I hope you don't mind if I post this on my blog, with a link of course ;-)<br /><br /><a href="http://whosnightisit.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Feel Free to Follow Me!</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-40606028203460495882011-01-05T10:41:39.669+03:002011-01-05T10:41:39.669+03:00I loved this post. JazakAllah Khayr for sharing..M...I loved this post. JazakAllah Khayr for sharing..My perception of polygyny changes as I learn more and more about women that live through it..Rukhpar Morhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03357579094214268759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-79354312921894908122011-01-05T01:23:29.548+03:002011-01-05T01:23:29.548+03:00OMG!!! ..this little girl is absolutely adorable!!...OMG!!! ..this little girl is absolutely adorable!!! I just want to eat her up, MashaAllah!!!! Thanks so much for sharing Minty!!! I have to sit and write down the lyrics for this one... LOL I'll be singing it all day!! :DZORROhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02057263040571662963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-60664681640174138822011-01-04T18:28:08.874+03:002011-01-04T18:28:08.874+03:00LOL! Minty my binty...don't be sorry for lovin...LOL! Minty my binty...don't be sorry for loving me! I know what you meant and all that softy stuff in your chest is precious to me...Allah-sent, wa al hamdul'Illah.Healing Earthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01434544812025924667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-29670192857914002172011-01-04T16:52:29.946+03:002011-01-04T16:52:29.946+03:00hey sis.. i just re-read my posts.. and i think i ...hey sis.. i just re-read my posts.. and i think i sound like an emotional nutcase.. i just got all sentimental my chest felt all full of well softy stuff.. Sorry!! <br /><br />I know you dont feel sorry for yourself.. we both know you are to strong for that masha'Allah.. hey welcome back to the gang!! yeah and your good at walking and talking the game lol.. <br /><br />Love <br />mintyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-76319537964599812292011-01-04T16:41:30.221+03:002011-01-04T16:41:30.221+03:00i loved this and thought of you and all my other l...i loved this and thought of you and all my other lovely sisters.. lol...<br />i dont normally do songs as such but this is well you will see.. beyond cute.. is not the right wording lol..<br /><br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=12Z6pWhM6TA<br /><br />mintyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-9778086549024146182011-01-04T16:41:11.896+03:002011-01-04T16:41:11.896+03:00Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh ...Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh my sweetest humbug! <br /><br />Jazaaki Allahu khayran. I'm so happy that I'm finally back in the "club." I felt guilty posting about polygyny when I wasn't in it. Now, I'm not just talking about hindsight, I'll be walking the walk and talking the talk, LOL.<br /><br />I'm trying to get the phone to work on my computer again...may Allah give me success - ameen!Healing Earthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01434544812025924667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-39850081038345247502011-01-04T16:27:18.149+03:002011-01-04T16:27:18.149+03:00Salam dear Mai.... i love you so much dear sister....Salam dear Mai.... i love you so much dear sister.. you have been wonderful to me and so many other sisters.. i pray we can be the same for you... when i call it is okay not to pick up but listen to my voice.. and know i think and feel on a similar wave length to you.. people are there for you.. love from a dear sister.. mintyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-6170895094224030942011-01-04T05:11:11.062+03:002011-01-04T05:11:11.062+03:00Wa alaykum as salaaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh...Wa alaykum as salaaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh Umm Salwaa.<br />As a rule, my emotions aren't in charge of me. When they affect my behavior in a negative way,I know that shaytaan is messing with me and I focus on getting rid of him. If I have a feeling of misgiving about the whole situation, I try to pinpoint what is wrong about it that is causing me to feel that way. I am at war with shaytaan, so what comes from him I focus on murdering, lol!<br />I haven't met Co-wife yet. I'm sure I will feel much better once I meet her, as then I will have a "feel" of her. I don't expect any earth-shaking confidence issues, bi ithn Illah. I am not your typical 45 year old, mashaa'Allah. I don't look my age, I am have BMI of 21 and am very energetic and optimistic. I am who I am.<br /><br />Yes, polygyny is more common here, although still not that common. I don't think it makes any difference to me. When we did it the first time, we lived in the USA, and it was something totally foreign to the people in our neighborhood. It didn't bother me. What bothers me is fitnah, insincerity, selfishness, and hasad. If we avoid those things, inshaa'Allah all will be well.Healing Earthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01434544812025924667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-7955533550783324822011-01-04T05:01:38.187+03:002011-01-04T05:01:38.187+03:00WOW!!!...children are more in touch with their sur...WOW!!!...children are more in touch with their surroundings than we give them credit for!!! MashaAllah... she's her mother's daughter!!! It will all fall into place without any effort InshaAllah ! :DZORROhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02057263040571662963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-3233814042885454122011-01-04T04:58:32.517+03:002011-01-04T04:58:32.517+03:00Ah Pingy, I pray this works out for the children f...Ah Pingy, I pray this works out for the children foremost. These days, while he is busy getting things set up for Co-wife, they barely see him and I am constantly fending off the questions, "Where's Ab?" and "When will Ab be home?" Yesterday, my 7 year old was sitting at dinner and my 4 year old said, "You need to keep space on the platter for Ab." When I told her he wasn't coming for dinner, the 7 year old said, "He has a new wife." It was such a bald statement...like she understood that it was the reason for everything. Bi ithn Illah, this will work out and EVERYONE will benefit - ameen!Healing Earthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01434544812025924667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-8523139130179288012011-01-04T04:50:58.387+03:002011-01-04T04:50:58.387+03:00As salaamuu Alaikaam
Sister Mai- I am really sort ...As salaamuu Alaikaam<br />Sister Mai- I am really sort of speechless. It seems you really have a handle on your insecurities...Masha Allah. You have truly tasted the sweetness of Emaan. And you seem to have a deep understanding of the deen. So you were able to think outside your emotions. Have you met your co-wife? If not, how do you think you will feel once you actually meet her? If you have met her....Did you feel comfortable? Also, I think polygyny is practiced more often in the country you live in. Does that make acceptance easier?UmmSalwaanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-40575835729092140442011-01-04T02:36:46.519+03:002011-01-04T02:36:46.519+03:00I'm kind of late for this one.... but I do pra...I'm kind of late for this one.... but I do pray with all my heart this one works out! ..for yours and your husband's sake, InshaAllah Aameen. ..one day at a time!! :DZORROhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02057263040571662963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-46464402872664671132011-01-03T20:44:49.346+03:002011-01-03T20:44:49.346+03:00Dear Sweetlikechocolate,
Jazaaki Allahu khayran. ...Dear Sweetlikechocolate,<br /><br />Jazaaki Allahu khayran. Inshaa'Allah, it will be respectful as we both want to please Allah, subhaana wa taala. Ameen to your dua' and may Allah shower His blessings upon you, too - ameen!Healing Earthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01434544812025924667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-76768233837690996162011-01-03T18:24:43.084+03:002011-01-03T18:24:43.084+03:00Alhumdulillah.
I pray you and your co-wife have a...Alhumdulillah.<br /><br />I pray you and your co-wife have a good respectful relationship InshaAllah. May Allah bless you all <3sweetlikechocolatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12130911562586487230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-15981681449642446592011-01-03T17:16:13.660+03:002011-01-03T17:16:13.660+03:00Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh ...Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh Em Hamzah!<br /><br />Ahh, I can remember those days so well when I had a 2-year old and was pregnant with my second daughter. Subhaan Allah, after I had her it was even harder keeping up with the two hourly feedings and tending to all the family as well. I pray you have 9 or more! They are a most amazing blessing when born of believing, Jennah-focused parents. Inshaa'Allah, you will find that in a couple of years, once the oldest is more self-sufficient, things get much easier. After that, it is never quite as hard again (inshaa'Allah). May Allah bless you and your husband with endless blessings, mercy, a pious progeny, and lots of patience - ameen!Healing Earthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01434544812025924667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-60235008257774242622011-01-03T16:57:56.709+03:002011-01-03T16:57:56.709+03:00Assalamu alaikum sis,
Thanks for posting this and...Assalamu alaikum sis,<br /><br />Thanks for posting this and I can definitely see where you and your husband's relationship will probably be doing really well since you will have more you and him time now that the kids are getting older! I am currently pregnant with #2 and my husband and I want like 9 or as many as Allah wills. lol. So, when I am like 40 I will get a break hopefully. :D <br /><br />Right now, my hubby has to deal with a toddler and a tired, pregnant wife. And that gets tiring for him.Em Hamzahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12157292856531632501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-34209185991618433642011-01-03T16:15:40.208+03:002011-01-03T16:15:40.208+03:00Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh ...Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh Rene!<br /><br />Jazaaki Allahu khayran for your love (because I really feel it, mashaa'Allah) and beautiful dua'. Ameen! Ameen! And may Allah, subhaana wa taala, reward you with even more that you wish for me - ameen!Healing Earthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01434544812025924667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-19517617318154433872011-01-03T16:11:58.135+03:002011-01-03T16:11:58.135+03:00Salaam Alaikum Sister!
I really enjoyed reading t...Salaam Alaikum Sister!<br /><br />I really enjoyed reading this post and I ask Allah (swt) to bless you and your family and reward you with the highest level of paradise for your patience and love for your husband. Ameen. May Allah (swt) keep your husband always happy with you and your children and treat you and his second wife with fairness and love. Ameen.Rene´s Bare Essentialshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16308212836561045324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-5303116545299432182011-01-03T15:06:00.297+03:002011-01-03T15:06:00.297+03:00Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh ...Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh Umm Hamza! <br /><br />Where have you been? I have missed you and been thinking about you a lot lately, mashaa'Allah. Inshaa'Allah, all is well on your side of the "sea", lol. <br /><br />Yes, the BIG picture is REAL, the emotional stuff is just shaytaan spreading lies. Ameen to your dua' and a BIG HUG for you! <3 <3 <3Healing Earthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01434544812025924667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2852649203273943364.post-4753925014326021532011-01-03T14:28:00.521+03:002011-01-03T14:28:00.521+03:00Salam Alaykum Sister Mai! Thanks for reminding us...Salam Alaykum Sister Mai! Thanks for reminding us that marriage is soooo much more than what Shaitan makes us jealous about. Sometimes we all have to take a step back and look at the BIG picture. May Allah keep our hearts steady Amen.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com