Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Are you a doormat?

BismIllah wa as salaamu alaykum wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh.

It is very common in the Western world to hear women complain that they are treated like doormats by their husbands and families. This attitude has also been adopted by some Muslims, especially women with large families and husbands who are busy working and do not help around the house. They raise the children, prepare the meals, keep the house, and welcome their husband home with service and a smile. So, how can you feel good in a relationship where you are an 'open all hours' one-stop shop?

Remember that it is shaytaan telling you that you're a doormat, used and abused. Allah tells you that you are the "home," the essential foundation for the future of our Ummah, in a place of honor and great importance. shaytaan tells us that we are like 24 hour maids for working hard to please our families. However, Allah tells you that you are an obedient, faithful servant who is fulfilling her duty to Him by serving her family. shaytaan  whispers in our ears that we are taken for granted, unappreciated. Allah tells us that every sincere effort to make and preserve the home and family is part of worship.    

Allah tells us that for every minute we strive to please Him through our appointed duties to please and support our husbands, raise our children upon the Qur'an and Sunnah, and perform our own Islamic responsibilities, we are in a state of ibadah. So tell me, which one do you want to listen to, the rejected outcast or your Creator?