Friday, October 19, 2018

A Rap Song I've been working on for around 14 years

Assalaamu alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

Before you think I've fallen into sin, writing a rap song, check out the lyrics and the motivation. It's a work in progress, and any additions you may have are welcome!

I wear my pants, Baggy cut
Flashin' my drawers and half my butt
'Cause I'm a dumbo
Uh uh uh
I'm a dumbo

If I try to run around
My pants make a puddle on the ground
'Cause I'm a dumbo
Uh uh uh
I'm a dumbo

I wear my pants tight as can be
Crotch right down to my knees
'Cause I'm a dumbo
Uh uh uh
I'm a dumbo

I think I'm cool, super fly
Plumber's crack in your eye
'Cause I'm a dumbo
Uh uh uh
I'm a dumbo

Skinny jeans, muffin top
Look just like a cake pop
'Cause I'm a dumbo
Uh uh uh
I'm a dumbo

Shaved my eyebrows, drew a line
Look amazed all the time
'Cause I'm a dumbo
Uh uh uh
I'm a dumbo

It has the children cracking up, maashaa Allah. 

You see, I wanted to satirize pop culture fashion so the children could see the ridiculous side of it, not just think it was "cool." Just telling children that it isn't Islamic or something we shouldn't imitate may not change their viewpoint, but giving them a different perspective, something that will stick in their heads and make them laugh when they see an example of it, may well reach them more effectively.  As part of my mothering strategies I come up with a lot of nutty stuff to give a different view of what's considered "in, hip, cool, etc." and success is only with Allah, Who knows best.

Subhaanak Allahumma wa bihamdik, laa illaaha illaa ant, astaghfiruka wa atoobu ilayk.

Thursday, November 9, 2017


Bism Illah wa assalaamu alaykum.

Ever find yourself held to account by others for the things you didn't do,continue, or complete?  I'm not talking about blameworthy issues where you were lazy or negligent, as those things are from shaytaan. I'm talking about praiseworthy and good things you intended to do, but other events, circumstances,  or constraints (Allah's Qadr) delayed or prevented you. Well, here's my du'a for you.

May Allah reward you for all the good you do and all the good you intend to do, because you plan and Allah Plans, but only Allah's Plan will happen.

Tuesday, November 7, 2017

Are your reminders benefiting you?

Bism Illah wa assalaamu alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

What ever happened to the reminder benefiting the believer? Subhaan Allah, when we see another make an error and simply send a hadith or statement of reminder, not even directly addressing their specific issue, we can be accused of attacking them.

Language is so misused. A careful and caring reminder is not an attack. Sincerely addressing an error or fault is done out of love.

When reminded, or even when attacked, I believe the best response is to take it to heart. Immediately make istighfar and look for the error of your ways, or the truth in the statement.  Be guilty until proven innocent in your own court.

Sometimes you will find that you've been misunderstood, misjudged, or been the object of bad suspicions. But even then, you must consider what you did that left the door open to be misconstrued and seek to close that door in the future.

Rather than immediately jumping to your own defense, jump start your own taqwa and seek the lesson or rectification that the reminder is meant for.

Subhaanaka, Allahumma wa bihamdik, laa illaaha illaa Ant, astaghfiruka wa atoobu ilayk.

Wednesday, May 3, 2017

Letting Go

BismIllah wa assalaamu alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

For most of my years as a Muslimah, I have asked Allah to use me to benefit others and be a positive influence. That is a big deal to me. However, there have been situations in my life where I have tried to help and failed, Qadru Allahi wa maa shaa faal. What I didn't pay enough attention to was the Qadru Allahi wa maa shaa faal part. I churned my failures over and over in my mind, feeling ill considering what I did wrongly or aspects I missed. I held myself accountable for my inability to solve, resolve, or alleviate others' problems.

Finally, alhamdulillah, I internalized the fact that the only way I have ever helped anyone was by Allah's Will; I understood that it was not in my control. Those situations I could not benefit were never within my ability to benefit. I, nonsensically, held myself accountable for something outside of my ability.

So, this is about letting go. Letting go of guilt and misery about what I cannot control. No more profuse apologies and sleepless nights, but rather, Qadru Allahi wa maa shaa faal. Better to hang on to those feelings of guilt and misery in regard to the things within my ability that I fall short in. Most surely, focusing on those can bring benefit and positivity to myself and those around me.

Subhaanak, Allahummah wa bihamdik, laa ilaaha ilaa ant, astaghfiruka wa atoobu ilayk.

Wednesday, April 19, 2017

Don't Turn Around

Bismillah wa assalaamu alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

Something happened in summer 2015 that changed my thinking and behavior, maashaa Allah. We were in England visiting my parents and my husband and I were walking out of a shopping center when we saw a tall man of likely African descent with a long, brightly colored gown and an 18-24" high, furry, black, beehive hat on his head. My first instinct was to turn around and take another look at his outfit. However, the most overwhelming clarity came over me, maashaa Allah, and I kept my eyes focused straight ahead. I realised that it did not concern me; there was no valid reason for me to look at that man again. I told my husband the thought process I'd just been through and felt like I had moved to a new level of understanding of the hadith on the authority of Abu Hurayrah (radhi Allahu anh) who said: The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said:

"Part of the perfection of one's Islam is his leaving that which does not concern him."

After that incident, not only did I find myself doing split second analyses of situations and stopping myself from many reactions that were not my concern, but I realised something else. If I had turned around, I'd have been no different from those people who turn back and stare at me and my daughters in our hijab and niqaab. So next time you pass someone dressed differently or unusual in some way, live the hadith and don't turn around.

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Lessons from a bag of potatoes

Bismillah wa assalaamu alaykum.

The other day I took a bag of potatoes in order to prepare breakfast  and found that there was a bad potato that had made the potatoes near it start going bad. Yet again there was a powerful message from Allah in that bag of potatoes. One bad potato will eventually turn the whole bag bad.

Consider how Allah  tells us to only keep good companions and that we are on the Deen of our companions. He doesn't tell us to have mostly good companions and a few bad are okay. Neither does He say that if there are many good companions then it's okay to have just one bad one amongst them.

Now, obviously, we need to deal with the bad potato. We might cut off the bad part and use the remainder, but, most surely, we separate it from the good potatoes. This is much like life, where we do our best to handle bad people well and bring out the good, but do damage control and keep our distance.

Subhaanak Allahumma wa bihamdik, laa illaaha illaa ant, astaghfiruka wa atoobu ilayk.