Assalaamu alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
Some marriages have a dynamic, developed over time, where the couple lives together and interact as normal but neither knows what the other is doing, buying, planning. Often when children are involved, they are the carriers of news to the wife, with nothing coming directly from the husband or vice versa. Some might call this dysfunctional, because there is clearly a problem with communication and a lack of respect or love that leads to such a situation. But you can live your life, get on with things, live quite separate lives and yet live in harmony together having a pleasant family life.
How, you ask? It's simple. Just do what you are supposed to do. Meet your responsibilities. Fulfill others' rights over you. Honor the amana (trust) Allah has placed in you in your various roles - be it a spouse, a parent, a sibling, an offspring. Hang on to your faraa'id and do them with the knowledge that they are pure benefit for your dunya and your aakhirah. If you can tunnel your focus to these specific things, you can not only function in such situations, you can also flourish bi idhn Illah ta'ala!
Subhaanaka Allahi wa bihamdika, laa ilaaha il ant, astaghfir Allahu wa atoobu ilayk
Where is you co wife zainab?
ReplyDeleteThat relationship ended while we were still in Madinah, around 10 or 11 years ago, qadr Allahu wa maa shaa fa'al.
DeleteAssalam aleykom, is your husband still in polygyny?
ReplyDeleteWa alaykum ussalaam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. No, he is not and hasn't been since the relationship with Zainab ended.
DeleteSubhanAllah. Ukhti how can I contact you privately?
DeleteRespond to this with your email address and I will not publish it, but will contact you directly from my email and we can go from there inshaa Allah.
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