Wednesday, April 19, 2017

Don't Turn Around

Bismillah wa assalaamu alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

Something happened in summer 2015 that changed my thinking and behavior, maashaa Allah. We were in England visiting my parents and my husband and I were walking out of a shopping center when we saw a tall man of likely African descent with a long, brightly colored gown and an 18-24" high, furry, black, beehive hat on his head. My first instinct was to turn around and take another look at his outfit. However, the most overwhelming clarity came over me, maashaa Allah, and I kept my eyes focused straight ahead. I realised that it did not concern me; there was no valid reason for me to look at that man again. I told my husband the thought process I'd just been through and felt like I had moved to a new level of understanding of the hadith on the authority of Abu Hurayrah (radhi Allahu anh) who said: The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said:

"Part of the perfection of one's Islam is his leaving that which does not concern him."

After that incident, not only did I find myself doing split second analyses of situations and stopping myself from many reactions that were not my concern, but I realised something else. If I had turned around, I'd have been no different from those people who turn back and stare at me and my daughters in our hijab and niqaab. So next time you pass someone dressed differently or unusual in some way, live the hadith and don't turn around.


  1. Assalamu alaikum warahmatullah sister.

    Pray you are well.

    Jazakillahukhayra for sharing with us what Allah has taught you.

    Alhamdulillah I am a long time reader from the UK.

    I would like to share some of your posts on my blog, if that is ok.


    Sister, London, UK

  2. Wa alaykum ussalaam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh Sister.

    Firstly, wa iyyaaki! It is for the sole reason that someone might benefit from my living and learning Islam, that I write about it. Alhamdulillah.

    Secondly, you are welcome to share any of my posts on your blog. I only ask that you let me know your blog, so I may visit you sometimes as you have visited me.

    Baarak Allahu feekee, ukhtee f'Illah! May your Ramadhaan and your life as a whole elevate your aakhirah exponentally - ameen!

  3. Aameen.

    Jazaakillahukhayra sister.

    May Allah allow you to reach Ramadhan and may He allow you to read Quran, pray 12 sunan of salawaat al khamsah, thikr, taraweeh, sadaqah, dua, and da'wah. Aameen.