BismIllah wa as salaamu alaikum.
Subhaan Allah, day in day out I see things from Muslims about love. Falling in love, being in love, losing the love, blah de blah blah blah. Okay, two sentences and you are already thinking, "she seems lika a miserable, loveless woman!" LOL! Well, when are we going to stop chasing the fairy tale movie stuff? When are we going to get serious and differentiate between like and lust and love? When are we going to just want with every ounce of our being for another person to be pleasing to Allah in everything they do? I feel that there is too much lacking when it comes to the love for Allah, love for the good and the best end for others.
Allah Knows, I've been through all kinds of things in my friendships and marriage, and it surely would not stand today if it was based on the fairytale, like, lust, type of love that many base their relationships on. It is through pushing through, plodding on, praying for the best for your partner that gets you to a better place and through the tough times. It is knowing that staying with this person is solely for the ultimate success of Allah's pleasure and His ultimate reward insha'Allah.
I don't care if you love my bubbly personality or not. I don't care if you think I'm attractive, intelligent, or any other nice things. I care that you want me to get to Jennah and be as close to Allah and the Siraat Al Mustaqeem as possible on the way. I care that you support me in every way you can to keep me on the Siraat and help me please Allah more and more. That's love to me, and that's what I give...in any way I can. We don't have to shove it down each other's throats. We can find subtle ways of drawing each other closer to the Path. We can use different approaches, and even just make dua' without any other intervention or action. But therein, in my extreme thinking, is the real love that will stand through everything and always keep our hearts and intentions pure, bi ithn Allah.