Friday, October 9, 2009

Houses Built of Straw, Sticks, and Bricks

BismIllah wa as salaamu alaykum.

Late last night I could not sleep. My mind was filled with different ideas and issues. Then, in thinking of marriages in Islam I was reminded of The Three Little Pigs. Ironic, I know. Pigs are hardly our animal of the week. However, it was their choice of houses that was in my mind.

When we build relationships and structure our lives around someone who is away from Islam, we are living in a house made of straw. We surround ourselves with something that has no weight with Allah, no substance. The person doesn't gain the rewards for their actions because they aren't done for the sake of Allah, subhaana wa taala. Hence, their house has no permanence and is easily blown away by shaytaan, the big, bad wolf.

When we build relationships and structure our lives around someone who is a hypocrite, we are living in a house made of sticks. It has some substance, but the hypocrisy makes it intrisically weak. They know the truth, but they do not practice it and so their house has the strength of the truth but is still blown away by the big, bad wolf.

However, when we build relationships and structure our lives around someone who puts Islam first and bases their whole life and dealings around Allah's Guidance and the example of the Prophet Muhammad, salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam, they are living in a house made of strong bricks. The house has substance and weight with Allah. They are a support to each other and have the security and protection of their Creator. They are metaphorical bricks in the wall for each other. They have the defense against the big, bad wolf.

So many of us, at some stage of our life, built our houses out of straw or sticks. But their easy destruction guides us to appreciate all the beauty and security that a house made of bricks offers. May Allah, subhaana wa taala, guide us all to houses made of bricks in this life and beautiful palaces in Jennah al Firdous - ameen.


  1. Thumma Aameen!!! Yes Mai, you got a point there. It goes to show also how our 'criteria' or better yet, our husband's criteria for choosing a wife will ultimately affect or change the 'type' of house we have... If we/they choose "Deen" above all else, then Allah(swt) will make beautiful the "not so pleasant" and will make our foundations strong, InshaAllah!!! It is only Allah(swt) who puts "love" in our hearts for each other... and the only one who grants "honor" and "respect" in the eyes of the people...

    Love reading from you!!! ...I needed this today, Shukr Allah!!! :D

  2. As Salaamu Alaikum Mai,

    You said that beautifully,which is nothing unusual for you. It appears Allah SWT has given you a special gift to communicate in a way that inspire others. It's a wonderful blessing.

    Have you considered writing a book for the sisters? Your words of wisdom could benefit so many, I'm sure. I know you're busy doing so many other thing. I was just wondering.

    Life is so interesting. We never know exactly where it's going to take us, although we may know where we want to go. Insha Allah, I pray we are on the right path. I hope we see each other in Paradise, Insha Allah.

  3. Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh Umm Umar and Ana!

    If it benefits, then I'm happy. Allah is so Merciful!

    Perhaps I'll compile all my things from the sisters site and this blog, etc. and come up with a book. However, don't hold your breath!

    I'm just about to iron and get the last things packed for our flight to Madinah this afternoon insha'Allah. After such a long wait, no amount of exhaustion can diminish my joy and gratefulness. I'll look forward to catching up with you both once we are settled insha'Allah.

    Jazaakum Allahu khayran my dear sisters and ameen to your dua's!