Tuesday, December 24, 2013

Parenting Posts

Bism Illah wa assalaamu alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

I have always posted my writing on parenting here, but in an effort to restructure and keep things relevant, I will be posting them on the Healing Earth blog from now on inshaa Allah. Raising our children is a key element in healing them, ourselves, and the earth. We must teach and model for our children how to heal themselves - which is only possible and successful through Allah, subhaana wa ta'ala, and His clear Guidance.

Therefore, the latest posts can be found over on Healing Earth blog, specifically:
Homeschooling and The Parenting "Nothing," and Some Healing Strategies for Children, bi'idhn Illah ta'ala.


  1. Assalamu alaikum sis. I hope all is well. Jazakallah khair for sharing all your hard work for us to benefit. It surely will be if great use this coming year inshallah. I am doing homeschooling with my boys who are 4 and 2. So far it is crazy

  2. Wa alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh Em Hamzah.

    I am extremely grateful to hear from you. I have been worried about you since reading part of post that you subsequently deleted, I believe. As far as homeschooling, you need specialized suggestions based on the age of your boys. I am teaching three girls, 7, 10, and 13 years old and my baby boy is just one, so not yet ready for homeschooling. He is focused on potty training, walking more than 10 steps at a time, and doing the laundry by hand at the moment, LOL.

    What you do with your boys at those ages needs to be totally hands on - for everything. They can learn huge amounts, but it needs to be through doing, touching, making, and feeling.I have a :LOT of ideas that I'd love to share with you, many based on an unconventional curriculum that will establish a love of learning, life skills, and how they spend their free time with a strong connection to Islamic principles and the Sunnah inshaa Allah. I just have to figure out HOW to share...but the unpublished post on exposure might set the stage for it, bi idhn Illah.

    I love you, sister. Feel free to write to me on madinahnaseeha@gmail.com if you would like to.

    Barak Allahu feeki.

  3. Assalamu alaikum. Thank you for your time and reply. There are times when I forget where to turn for my problems, or get impatient. And of course my post was in the midst of that. So, I imagine shaytan would have gotten the best of me had I kept it. Things are much better after knowing and practicing turning to Allah first when I have a problem.

    I guess homeschooling is crazy in a way that I see my four year old doing many things I did not know he would be able to do by now. So, I feel like I might be lacking in a lot of areas where they could be doing more. I am actually only learning memorizing Quran, sunnah and basic life skills right now with them. We are learning together. I contacted the Islamic school to see if I could do some kind of supplementary schooling to which the principal said that her school is not a daycare and need to enroll them full time. I really wish them to be homeschooled at this age because this is a critical age for developing good habits and manners.

    I guess that was a lot, just wanted to share my fears of homeschooling. And I really am excited at the prospect of reading your curriculum inshallah. I will e-mail you with questions if you don't mind.

    1. Al hamdul'Illah, all the things you are including are hands-on, "doing" things. Perfect to set up a lifetime of habits and manners that are pleasing to Allah, inshaa Allah. I think that emulating the Sunnah is one of the most fun things to do with children. Reading ahadith about how the Prophet sat, ate, brushed his teeth, greeted people, slept, etc. are interesting and fun to act out. Later on, when they learn more and read ahadith and books of fiqh themselves, there will be nothing new...just reinforcement and confirmation that they learned the right things bi idhn Illah.

      They are better off at home because children pick up far too much from their peers at school, and it is often the negative things. May Allah protect them from that.

      As for you, sounds like you were blessed with a drop of simple sense and took the matter to the Only One Who can help. SOOOO happy to hear that! Al hamdul'Illahi Rabbil aal ameen!

      Yes, yes, yes...feel free to e-mail me. Also, in case you haven't seen it yet, www.islaam4kids.com is a really nice site for teaching small children tawheed, etc. It is on my Blog Roll, but I never know if people check that, so I'll mention it here.

  4. Asalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullah,

    Ukhtee I love your blog mashaAllah! Your writings have helped me a lot in my own little world Alhamdulillah!

    I can't see on your blog any way to contact you privately, is there an email I can contact you on inshaAllah please or if you don't have a public email, could you drop me a line at muslimhomeschool@outlook.com inshaAllah.
    JazakAllahu khayr!

    1. Wa alaykum assalaam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh ukhtee f'Illaah!

      Barak Allaahu feekee! Just when I start wondering if I really have anything worthwhile to share, a comment like yours comes along as reassurance that it isn't all in vain. Al hamdul'Illah for every bit of good you get from this blog; truly Allah is Merciful beyond bounds!

      You can reach me on madinahnaseeha@gmail.com. That is the main e-mail address for anyone contacting me or my husband through our blogs. Just put in the subject line that it is for Mai, inshaa Allah. I look forward to hearing from you, ukhtee.

      Wa iyyaaki!