Sunday, August 19, 2012

Eid: Now and Then

Bism Illah wa as salaamu alaykum wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh.

Another Ramadhaan completed and another flood of tears to mark my heartache at its end. Ramadhaan represents so much to me, with a complete change of focus and atmosphere in our household, mashaa'Allah. Simply the lack of having to prepare food during the day leaves me so much time for ibaadah and tarbiyyah, mashaa'Allah. Al hamdul'Illah for the blessing of another Ramadhaan and dua' for us all to see many more - ameen.

This morning I awoke at 2:45 a.m. and started readying the children to leave the house before fajr prayer. We were blessed with praying Fajr at Masjid al Quba, where the imam recited Surat ar-Rahmaan mashaa'Allah. Then we sat there afterwards reciting the takbeer, watching as hundreds of people arrived for the Eid prayer. We were offered sweets, dates, and water, mashaa'Allah. We watched the edges of the clouds turn pastel shades of marshmallow fluff as the sun rose, then we prayed and listened to the khutbah.  Afterwards, we returned home, and had juicy watermelon and hot tameez and adas (fresh tanoor-baked wholewheat bread and tasty lentils) for breakfast.  The children spent the morning looking at the books they were gifted for Eid and making crafts from them. They were given their tins and jars of homemade Eid goodies and spent the morning buzzing around excitedly as the adults took some rest. After Dhuhr prayer, a light lunch of homemade pita bread and sticky sweet rolls, with minted soft cheese and torshy (crisp pickled vegetables) was enjoyed. Afternoon tea is planned for after Asr and after Maghrib we will go out for dinner inshaa'Allah.  Tomorrow, after Fajr, we set off for Yanbu with its beautiful beach on the Red Sea, staying for the night until the third day of Eid. Everyone can enjoy the blue sea, fresh fish, and relaxing atmosphere inshaa'Allah. Such is my Eid now that I have a family - a husband, children, and as a special gift this year, my father.

It is such a contrast to the Eids gone by, when I was single and living in Bahrain. Initially, I found myself sitting at home after the Eid prayer all alone with nothing to do and no-one to visit. All my friends were married, busy with family and extended family on the days of Eid. I just didn't fit in. Then, one year I met an older sister, her daughter and her two small grandsons. I also met the same year three other sisters who were single and in a similar situation to me, just left hanging around with nothing to look forward to at Eid time. An idea came to me and, al hamdu l'Illah, it became a tradition that continued until my departure from Bahrain and marriage in 2002. I arranged to meet all the sisters (or take them if they weren't driving) at the Eid prayer. Then afterwards, I invited them to huge buffet breakfast in an hotel - sometimes the Sheraton, sometimes the Gulf Hotel. We would take a long, leisurely breakfast, which usually turned into brunch, and then go for a walk along the corniche. Before going our separate ways, I would give out plates of homemade treats and gifts. Eid went from being something dreaded to something anticipated and filled with barakah, mashaa'Allah. Still, over 10-15 years later, those same friends still send me e-mails telling me how much they miss those Eids, wa al hamdul'Illahi Rabbil aal ameen!

Must seem like I'm blabbering a bit today, but I guess what I want to point out and remember myself is that Eid is what you make it...not just for yourself, but for others. Now the days are gone when I have to find solutions for Eids alone, but they aren't gone for everyone. For those of you who are single, without Muslim family to celebrate or gather with, remember that there are others who are in the same boat. Plan something special together. It's not about how extravagant or expensive it is, it's about being together and enjoying the blessings of good companionship and support on these days that Allah has given us as a time to celebrate following Ramadhaan and/or Hajj. Eid is for everyone and everyone should FEEL Eid, bi ithn Illah.

As always, may Allah accept our fasting, our worship, our dua', and pardon our omissions and errors during this Ramadhaan and bless us to benefit and improve from many more - ameen.

Taqabbal Allahu minna wa minkum!


  1. Assalamualaikum Mai,

    Eid Mubarak to you. In my country, we say Selamat Hari Raya...true, Ramadhan will always be missed. This year I felt that it went extremely fast. Eid is always celebrated at a grand scale here in Malaysia and Alhamdulillah food is in abundance..I do feel bad for those who are deprived of it an d I am not able to do anyhting much about it...Eid Mubarak to you and family from me and my big family....

  2. assalamualaikum wa rahmatulahi wa barakatu sissy!!
    Eid Mubarak (late , since i stumbled upon your blog just today)

    Masha'Allah what a wonderful blog you own ! the content is fabulous masha'Allah!

    I know how you feel now that Ramadan is's almost like a piece of my heart has left me :( insha'Allah we are alive to see this blessed month again next year!


    1. Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh Khadijah!

      Mashaa'Allah, what a blessing that you found me and I now have a chance to get to know you! Your blog is very interesting and I enjoyed reading about your journey so far. Al hamdul'Illah, you have a good husband with clear knowledge to lead you in these early years of Islam. That is such a critical thing. May Allah always protect you both, give you righteous offspring, and bless you with His Ultimate Success in this life and the next - ameen. Ameen, to your dua' and I hope to see much more of you inshaa'Allah!

  3. Allahumma barik's been months since I've last had a chance to read blogs, yours is truly the only one I remember and come back to. Your words truely touch me uhkti fill ah, I don't know you but I love you for Allaah subhanhuwata3alas sake. Keep them coming because there are a lot of silent readers out there that benefit tremendously. Allahu Akbar x umm abdullah

    1. Wa feeki barak Allah Umm Abdullaah!

      You were expecting a baby last time I heard from you, weren't you? That would certainly explain your absence, mashaa'Allah. If I am correct, I pray Abdullaah is a pleasure to Allah every day of his life and is an ambassador and caller to Islam who finds the ultimate success in this life and the aakhirah - smeen!

      I, too, love you fee sabeel Allah, and silent readers or not, I'm blessed and grateful to have every eye on my blog that benefits. Truly...Allahu Akbar!


  4. Asalamualykum ukti, I have been following your blog though not commenting lol,mashallah you are an inspiration Allahumbarek. I was wondering if you could give me the link to your husband blog. I would love to see a mans perspective on things and see if i can apply them to my husband lool

    1. Wa alaykum us salaam wa RahmatUllahi wa Barakatuh ukhti f'Illaah.

      Wa feeki barak Allah. My husband doesn't have a blog. He used to have one for a short time, but he found that he could not afford the time and effort to do it justice and closed it. Sorry to disappoint you, but Qadr Allah he is focusing more on our Healing Earth blog and Living in Madinah, when he does have a bit of time.

      Wishing you all the best and never forget, patience and dua' are the best approaches for husbands. The patience to hold your tongue, the dua' for Allah to pave a way to resolution and harmony, and patience to wait for Allah's intervention, mercy, and blessings.