Saturday, February 20, 2010

The Root of the Problem

BismIllah wa as salaamu alaykum.

We all have big, long-term problems at times, and even though everything is a blessing of some sort from Allah, we still have to deal with them. If we understand that the problem is sent so that we can learn something, then that is a huge step towards having the right attitude and solving it. Here is a practical concept, which often answers the question of "Why?"

Think back to when the problem arose. This may require you to go back days, months, or even years. However, the circumstances around when the problem began is usually the key to what the problem is and why it is continuing. Sadly, it is usually listening to the whispers of shaytaan and believing his empty threats that make the problem last so long.

So make dua', call on Allah to guide you to what He wants you to learn from the problem, and then get your trenchcoat and magnifying glass out. Go back, Sherlock or Sherlockette... and back, and back. Dig deep, and deeper, and deeper. Pinpoint the beginning and work from there.

Most important of all, when you have clarity about the problem, don't be afraid to do what Allah guides you to. After all, the biggest reason for sending you the problem is to cause you to put ALL your faith and trust in Him and act with confidence.  Inshaa'Allah, then we will have a real hope of an eternity of never-ending bliss.


  1. As salamu alaikum Ukhty,

    Subhana Allah this advice is so useful to me, sometimes knowing what the right thing to do is daunting. I am in a neverending state of confusion. My fear is that the situation I am in is causing me untold fitna in my head and around me. Is it permissible to pray Istikarah in ALL situations (obviously I don't mean for haram things) I think you understand what I am asking.

    I have heard also that your emotions should be put aside for any offsprings you have as they need both parties together. Is this the ultimate good deed / sacrafice...............................................................................................?

    Fe aman Illah
    your Sister in Islam.


  2. Wa alaykum as salaam wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh my dearest sister.

    Pray istikharah in ALL situations. It is your direct secure line to Allah. Never forget, shaytaan came up with that word "daunting." Allah tells us to walk his Straight Clear Path and never fear a thing.

    Islam never said anything about offspring being a reason to continue a situation of fitnah or wrongdoing. Islam said, "Keep them in gentleness and kindness, or let them go." There was no sub-clause saying "except when they have children."

    Allah is the protector of us and our children. We are entrusted with them, but if we continue to listen to shaytaan instead of following the clear guidance of our Creator, then we are wrongdoers. We must always remember that children are affected greatly by negative surroundings and the oppressive air shaytaan creates. There is little mercy for them in such a situation.

    TRUST IN ALLAH. He is the ONLY One Who Will NEVER let you down.