BismIllah wa as salaamu alaykum.
One of my daughters said that the girls in her class look at her as if she were crazy because she uses a handkerchief rather than disposable tissues. My younger daughter mentioned that other children were buying chocolate, candy, chips, and other junk foods at school and she couldn't because I packed her lunch. I try to show my children and others, through modeling, that it's not about being seen by the people. It's not about being told how good or wonderful you are. It's not about what other people will say about you for not meeting their fabricated standards. What is important is pleasing Allah, subhaana wa taala. It is more important to save the earth Allah has gifted us and eat foods that will nourish the bodies Allah has entrusted to us.
I read this saying from one of the Salaf, and found it to be a perfect anchor when the storms of the world keep pounding us. We are so affected by those around us, and we give their opinions so much weight and importance...importance that is not deserved. All praise and thanks is due to Allah, The Beloved, The Divine.
“If you can be unknown, be so; it doesn’t matter if you are not known and it doesn’t matter if you are not praised. It doesn’t matter if you are blameworthy according to people if you are praiseworthy with Allah, the Mighty and Majestic.”
Al Fudayl ibn Ayyadh, Al Bayhaqi, Al Zuhd Al Kabir p100.
Assalamu alaykum
ReplyDeleteThat is soo true sister,may Allah guide us all to live up to His standards and not of the standards of human beings,aameen!!!
Conforming to the ideals of humans is horrid. It doesn't increase happiness and I think that its great that you're teaching your children to be ok alone and strong.
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