As salaamu alaikum wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh sisters!
In my opinion, there certain things that we always need to stick with to be good mothers. Here are two that can start off the list:
- Always set the example you wish your children to follow.
Children follow what is modeled, regardless of what they are told. For example, if you tell them to pray on time, but you don't, they will never bother to pray on time because they percieve it isn't REALLY important... after all you aren't doing it. Do not be a hypocrite in front of your children; it will affect them for life.
- Be consistent. If something is haraam and they do it, they must always be punished or warned about it... not just when you have the time to pay attention. Otherwise, they will not stop. Unacceptable behavior goes away when it is met with something undesirable EVERY time with no exceptions. Otherwise, it just keeps on trucking... just like shaytaan.
Please feel free to add to the list; we would all love to benefit from your insights, inshaa Allah!
Fi amaan illah!