BismIllah wa as salaamu alaykum wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh.
I have been marveling at this for some time and want to share it with you. Children are such a blessing and protection for us in so many ways. Just consider...
Conduct, Language, and Interactions:
Because we set an example and don't want our children to learn unpleasant, unacceptable, and un-Islamic behaviors, we work towards being good examples for them. Alhamdl'Illah, we model polite speech, the nice ways of dealing with others, and the Islamic way of doing day to day things which not only teaches them, but also keeps us in check. Subhaan Allah, our children benefit our own Islamic manners!
Striving for Allah:
How easy it would be to escape the trials and tribulations of marriage, difficult relationships with others, and things we don't like. It could be as simple as a few shouted words or an unpleasant e-mail to end a marriage or get away from things we don't enjoy. However, when we think of our children, the picture changes. If we simply walked away from a marriage rather than working through the hardships, we wouldn't have our children in our lives every day; there would be custody issues. The children wouldn't benefit from both parents and a feeling of unified family, which is a very important building block to their healthy emotional development. If we simply cut off relations with parents or close relatives due to personal differences, our children miss out on having their extended family. We also strive to show them how to deal Islamically with others and work through things to maintain the ties of kinship. Our children make us think again; they encourage us to bear with patience, as the Quran tells us to do. We often find ourselves doing what we are supposed to do as Muslims, taking the higher road. In an effort to show our children how important it is to persevere, to strive, we end up persevering and striving!
Allah sends His Blessings and Help in many forms...and our children are a great blessing and benefit to us! Subhaan Allah! Our children remind us that our priority is to please Allah, not our nafs or the whisperings of shaytaan.
When our children test our patience and wear on our nerves, let's try to remember how much they do for us and our deen. Let's remember that they have made us more obedient to Allah, subhaana wa taala, and are always encouraging us to the best and most pleasing behavior in the Eyes of our Creator. Let's give thanks and praise to Allah for the blessings that our children bring!